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Ohio Gay Marriage Ruling is Stayed
Published: Friday, 18 April 2014 14:29
Ohio Gay Marriage Ruling is Stayed

The Ohio gay marriage ruling has been stayed. Appeals will likely take months.

How to Get Legally Married in Vermont
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 22:19
How to Get Legally Married in Vermont

All you need to know about getting legally married in Vermont!

How to Get Legally Married in Rhode Island
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 21:44
How to Get Legally Married in Rhode Island

Same-sex couples can be legally married in Rhode Island. 

Patricia + Julissa: An Autumn Wedding Under the Texas Sun
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 20:49
Patricia + Julissa: An Autumn Wedding Under the Texas Sun

Patricia and Julissa were married under the hot desert sun of the Texas landscape!

Oklahoma Marriage Equality Case Appealing to 10th Circuit
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 18:15
Oklahoma Marriage Equality Case Appealing to 10th Circuit

The 10th Circuit is hearing arguments in the Oklahoma marriage equality case.

Under the Tux: Wedding Day Undergarments for Men
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 17:09
Under the Tux: Wedding Day Undergarments for Men

Guys, it's not all about the tux. Wow your man with some fun unmentionables!

Barbie + Alexa: An Intimate Garden Wedding in DC
Published: Wednesday, 16 April 2014 18:48
Barbie + Alexa: An Intimate Garden Wedding in DC

Barbie and Alexa decided to make their love legal on their 8-year anniversary!

Wednesday Wedding Song: All of Me by John Legend
Published: Wednesday, 16 April 2014 08:00
Wednesday Wedding Song: All of Me by John Legend

John Legend's song All of Me touches me to my core every time I hear it, and that's why I'm choosing it as this week's Wednesday Wedding Song.

Ohio Marriage Ruling May Be Stayed
Published: Wednesday, 16 April 2014 02:23
Ohio Marriage Ruling May Be Stayed

A federal judge is considering staying his recent ruling that same-sex marriage be recognized in the state.

Patrick + Arive: Celebrating 10 Years Together
Published: Tuesday, 15 April 2014 19:31
Patrick + Arive: Celebrating 10 Years Together

Patrick and Arive recently celebrated 10 years of love together.

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Your bank account has already suffered during the planning process, so the idea of shelling out more dough to tip your wedding vendors day-of may seem baffling. While not all vendors expect a service charge, there is a proper protocol, so before you stuff the envelopes, check out our tipping cheat sheet:

EXPECTED

Hair stylist/makeup artist: If you go to the salon, you’re expected to tip, as the salon is making the money and not the individual. However, if the stylist/artist comes to you, it’s merely appreciated.
How much: 15-20 percent

Driver: Whether you have a limo whisking you and your ‘maids around for the beauty prepping, a party bus to transport guests, or a carriage carrying you and your new wife toward honeymoon bliss, you are expected to tip the driver if a service charge is not included in your contract.
How much: 15-20 percent

Valet Parking Attendants: Estimate 50 cents to a dollar per car and be sure to post a sign so guests know that gratuity is being taken care of.
How much: $.50 to $1.00 per car

Officiant: If your officiant is of religious affiliation, then a donation to that institution is proper protocol. If you’re using a civil official, no tip is required.
How much: $100-$500 to religious institution

Set-Up Staff: A lot of work goes into setting up your dream wedding so slip a few dollars to those who are putting in the manual labor of delivery and setting up the tents, tables, chairs, etc.
How much: $5-$10 per person

Wait Staff: Check your contract, as most catering companies include a service fee. If not, tip 15  percent of the total catering bill to be divided amongst the staff.
How much: 15 percent of total catering bill

Bartenders: Again, tip only if it’s not already included.
How much: 10 percent of total liquor bill

Restroom and/or Coatroom Attendants: Guests will instinctually want to tip, so be sure to post that gratuity has already been prearranged.
How much: $.50 to $1 per guest.

OPTIONAL

Photographer/Videographer: Their fees are usually sufficient; however, if the photographer or videographer does not own the studio, a tip to those documenting your day is appreciated.
How much: $50-$100

Band/DJ: Whether it’s a DJ or 12-piece brass band that gets guests on the dance floor, music can make or break a reception. Though tipping is optional, it’s appreciated for a high-quality job, especially if the musician/DJ is a member of a larger company.
How much: $20-$25 per musician; $50-$100 for DJs

Wedding Planner: They turned your vision into reality, but they’re also getting paid to do so, so don’t feel obligated to tip. However, if yours did an exceptional job and you want to show a token of appreciation, a tip or gift is welcome.
How much: $200-$500 or a nice gift.

Florist: While there is no need to tip the florist, you may opt to tip the staff who deliver and set-up.
How much: $10-$20 per person

Cake Designer: As with the florist, no need to tip for the actual design, but delivery and set-up is appreciated.
How much: $10

 

Photo: Real Weddings Nick and Paul, photography by Long Haul Photo

 

TRAVEL

Always Among Friends: St. John, U.S. Virgin Islands
Always Among Friends: St. John, U.S. Virgin Islands
Published: Friday, 21 February 2014 00:56

Many consider the island of St. John to be the jewel in the Caribbean crown. Affluent and tranquil, this tiny tropical paradise is only 13 miles long and four miles wide.

Glaciers, Humpbacks and Bears, Oh My: Honeymoon on an Alaskan Cruise
Glaciers, Humpbacks and Bears, Oh My: Honeymoon on an Alaskan Cruise
Published: Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:11

Cruises serving the LGBT community have long been popular, but gay-friendly traveling options are widening as cruise lines increasingly welcome same-sex couples. 

Pocono Mountains Retreat: Mount Airy Casino Resort
Pocono Mountains Retreat: Mount Airy Casino Resort
Published: Tuesday, 30 April 2013 05:00

Mount Airy Casino Resort offers a picturesque honeymoon and wedding destination to gay, lesbian and allied couples alike.

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Our Families Don't Know We're Queer or Our Gender Identification and We're Getting Married
Our Families Don't Know We're Queer or Our Gender Identification and We're Getting Married
Published: Tuesday, 08 April 2014 05:00

As we approach our engagement party where our families will meet our partner for the first time, as well as each other, we are feeling really nervous that they will be uncomfortable and confused.