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Your bank account has already suffered during the planning process, so the idea of shelling out more dough to tip your wedding vendors day-of may seem baffling. While not all vendors expect a service charge, there is a proper protocol, so before you stuff the envelopes, check out our tipping cheat sheet:

EXPECTED

Hair stylist/makeup artist: If you go to the salon, you’re expected to tip, as the salon is making the money and not the individual. However, if the stylist/artist comes to you, it’s merely appreciated.
How much: 15-20 percent

Driver: Whether you have a limo whisking you and your ‘maids around for the beauty prepping, a party bus to transport guests, or a carriage carrying you and your new wife toward honeymoon bliss, you are expected to tip the driver if a service charge is not included in your contract.
How much: 15-20 percent

Valet Parking Attendants: Estimate 50 cents to a dollar per car and be sure to post a sign so guests know that gratuity is being taken care of.
How much: $.50 to $1.00 per car

Officiant: If your officiant is of religious affiliation, then a donation to that institution is proper protocol. If you’re using a civil official, no tip is required.
How much: $100-$500 to religious institution

Set-Up Staff: A lot of work goes into setting up your dream wedding so slip a few dollars to those who are putting in the manual labor of delivery and setting up the tents, tables, chairs, etc.
How much: $5-$10 per person

Wait Staff: Check your contract, as most catering companies include a service fee. If not, tip 15  percent of the total catering bill to be divided amongst the staff.
How much: 15 percent of total catering bill

Bartenders: Again, tip only if it’s not already included.
How much: 10 percent of total liquor bill

Restroom and/or Coatroom Attendants: Guests will instinctually want to tip, so be sure to post that gratuity has already been prearranged.
How much: $.50 to $1 per guest.

OPTIONAL

Photographer/Videographer: Their fees are usually sufficient; however, if the photographer or videographer does not own the studio, a tip to those documenting your day is appreciated.
How much: $50-$100

Band/DJ: Whether it’s a DJ or 12-piece brass band that gets guests on the dance floor, music can make or break a reception. Though tipping is optional, it’s appreciated for a high-quality job, especially if the musician/DJ is a member of a larger company.
How much: $20-$25 per musician; $50-$100 for DJs

Wedding Planner: They turned your vision into reality, but they’re also getting paid to do so, so don’t feel obligated to tip. However, if yours did an exceptional job and you want to show a token of appreciation, a tip or gift is welcome.
How much: $200-$500 or a nice gift.

Florist: While there is no need to tip the florist, you may opt to tip the staff who deliver and set-up.
How much: $10-$20 per person

Cake Designer: As with the florist, no need to tip for the actual design, but delivery and set-up is appreciated.
How much: $10

 

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