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Oklahoma Marriage Equality Case Appealing to 10th Circuit
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 18:15
Oklahoma Marriage Equality Case Appealing to 10th Circuit

The 10th Circuit is hearing arguments in the Oklahoma marriage equality case.

Under the Tux: Wedding Day Undergarments for Men
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 17:09
Under the Tux: Wedding Day Undergarments for Men

Guys, it's not all about the tux. Wow your man with some fun unmentionables!

Barbie + Alexa: An Intimate Garden Wedding in DC
Published: Wednesday, 16 April 2014 18:48
Barbie + Alexa: An Intimate Garden Wedding in DC

Barbie and Alexa decided to make their love legal on their 8-year anniversary!

Wednesday Wedding Song: All of Me by John Legend
Published: Wednesday, 16 April 2014 08:00
Wednesday Wedding Song: All of Me by John Legend

John Legend's song All of Me touches me to my core every time I hear it, and that's why I'm choosing it as this week's Wednesday Wedding Song.

Ohio Marriage Ruling May Be Stayed
Published: Wednesday, 16 April 2014 02:23
Ohio Marriage Ruling May Be Stayed

A federal judge is considering staying his recent ruling that same-sex marriage be recognized in the state.

Patrick + Arive: Celebrating 10 Years Together
Published: Tuesday, 15 April 2014 19:31
Patrick + Arive: Celebrating 10 Years Together

Patrick and Arive recently celebrated 10 years of love together.

Sarah + Kelly: A Rustic Outdoor Wedding in Denver
Published: Tuesday, 15 April 2014 18:43
Sarah + Kelly: A Rustic Outdoor Wedding in Denver

Kelly and Sarah had a lovely rustic wedding in Denver!

It's Not All About the Dress: Wedding Lingerie for the Feminine Bride
Published: Tuesday, 15 April 2014 16:46
It's Not All About the Dress: Wedding Lingerie for the Feminine Bride

Your wedding isn't all about the dress—you want to feel fabulous underneath it, as well!

Feeling Visible: Filing Taxes Together as a Married Lesbian Couple Should
Published: Tuesday, 15 April 2014 11:17
Feeling Visible: Filing Taxes Together as a Married Lesbian Couple Should

It’s tax day, and I’m feeling visible, which is a pretty damn spectacular feeling for someone who has felt invisible in her country for the past five years of being married to the woman I love.

Same-Sex Couple is the First to be Married in UK Church
Published: Tuesday, 15 April 2014 14:29
Same-Sex Couple is the First to be Married in UK Church

A UK couple becomes the first to legally marry in a UK church.

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House-made limoncello in rustic handled Mason jars featuring the Human Rights Campaign Equality sticker, the proceeds of which benefit the LGBT-equality organization, at Kevin and Pete's wedding. Click here to read their wedding story. 

Whether you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, queer, transgender, pansexual, allied or somewhere in the middle, marriage equality is important for everyone. Showing your support for the freedom to marry at your wedding helps continue the fight by spreading awareness. We’ve gathered 10 ideas for you to honor marriage equality at your wedding.

circle_1READING
Have your officiant or a specially chosen guest read aloud the now-famous passage from the 2003 Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court decision to legally recognize same-sex marriage:

“Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support; it brings stability to our society. For those who choose to marry, and for their children, marriage provides an abundance of legal, financial, and social benefits. In return it imposes weighty legal, financial, and social obligations. Because it fulfills yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition. It is undoubtedly for these concrete reasons, as well as for its intimately personal significance, that civil marriage has long been termed a ‘civil right.’ Without the right to choose to marry one is excluded from the full range of human experience.” – Chief Justice Margaret Marshall, Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court, Nov. 18, 2003, Goodridge v. Dept. of Public Health

circle_2GO NEUTRAL
Straight or trans? Nix the expected heteronormative terms of “bride and groom” and ask your officiant switch to “happy couple” and “partner.”

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circle_3SHOW YOUR COLORS
Rainbows aren’t just for gay pride festivals. Add a little wave of support with one or two rainbow elements to your day to celebrate your community pride. The ROY G. BIV look is currently trending in weddings, too.

  »» See More Stunning Rainbow Fashion Looks for Your Wedding

circle_4REGISTER FOR PROGESS
Instead of piling up on soap dishes and toasters, consider asking friends and family to make gifts to Freedom to Marry, freedomtomarry.org, or the HRC (Human Rights Campaign), hrc.org, in lieu of, or in addition to, giving gifts to you.

circle_5LINK LOVE
Include a link on your wedding website to charitable organizations that are fighting for everyone’s right to marry, such as marriageequality.org, freedomtomarry.org, hrc.orglambdalegal.org or your state's local marriage equality or LBGT organization.

circle_6DONATE
Set aside a certain amount of your wedding budget—even if it’s just 1 percent—to be donated to a marriage-equality organization. Let your guests know with a framed announcement on your sign-in table, on your wedding website or in your program.

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circle_7TIE THE KNOT
Place a basket or vase with white knots for people to wear at your wedding. Whiteknot.org is a celebrity-endorsed nonprofit marriage-equality organization that works toward everyone having the right to “tie the knot.” For a small donation, they’ll send you a package of unassembled knots and pins to create white knots for your event.

circle_8WE ARE FAMILY
Exclusively patronize gay-owned or gay-friendly businesses for your wedding. Supporting your community is easier when you know where to look. All our advertisers are gay-friendly, as are the advertisers in The GA Voice and equallywed.com, which features an extensive list of LGBT-friend Atlanta wedding vendors.

circle_9DRINK FOR EQUALITY

Show your equality pride by affixing HRC or another LGBT-minded organization’s sticker to souvenir Mason jars and serve a refreshing cocktail in it at your wedding reception. Purchase for $3 each on HRC.org and profits support marriage equality, as well as advancing other LGBT rights.


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circle_10THAT’S MY JAM
Have your DJ dedicate a song to marriage equality. Perhaps a little something from outspoken LGBT allies such as Jason Mraz or Pink (above) or out, proud and married singers like Chely Wright or Elton John. Perhaps you and your new spouse would even like to stand up and give a toast. Cheers to marriage equality!


Kirsten Ott Palladino is the editor-in-chief and cofounder of Equally Wed, the nation's premier online magazine for gay and lesbian weddings and honeymoons. Follow her @kirs10palladino and subscribe to her newsfeed on Facebook. 

 

Photos: Mason jars, Kristin Korpos Photography; rainbow shoes, Three Nails Photography; white knot, WhiteKnot.org; P!nk, Facebook

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Always Among Friends: St. John, U.S. Virgin Islands
Always Among Friends: St. John, U.S. Virgin Islands
Published: Friday, 21 February 2014 00:56

Many consider the island of St. John to be the jewel in the Caribbean crown. Affluent and tranquil, this tiny tropical paradise is only 13 miles long and four miles wide.

Glaciers, Humpbacks and Bears, Oh My: Honeymoon on an Alaskan Cruise
Glaciers, Humpbacks and Bears, Oh My: Honeymoon on an Alaskan Cruise
Published: Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:11

Cruises serving the LGBT community have long been popular, but gay-friendly traveling options are widening as cruise lines increasingly welcome same-sex couples. 

Pocono Mountains Retreat: Mount Airy Casino Resort
Pocono Mountains Retreat: Mount Airy Casino Resort
Published: Tuesday, 30 April 2013 05:00

Mount Airy Casino Resort offers a picturesque honeymoon and wedding destination to gay, lesbian and allied couples alike.

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Our Families Don't Know We're Queer or Our Gender Identification and We're Getting Married
Our Families Don't Know We're Queer or Our Gender Identification and We're Getting Married
Published: Tuesday, 08 April 2014 05:00

As we approach our engagement party where our families will meet our partner for the first time, as well as each other, we are feeling really nervous that they will be uncomfortable and confused.