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Jodie Foster Marries Alexandra Hedison
Published: Wednesday, 23 April 2014 20:27
Jodie Foster Marries Alexandra Hedison

Jodie Foster marries girlfriend Alexandra Hedison!

Stone Cold Steve Austin Supports Marriage Equality
Published: Wednesday, 23 April 2014 15:03
Stone Cold Steve Austin Supports Marriage Equality

In a NSFW podcast (so listen with your headphones on!), wrestler Stone Cold Steve Austin slams opponents of marriage equality.

Ashley + Amanda: A DIY Ohio Backyard Wedding
Published: Tuesday, 22 April 2014 21:33
Ashley + Amanda: A DIY Ohio Backyard Wedding

Ashley and Amanda had a quaint backyard wedding with a lot of Northern charm!

Federal Lawsuit Filed in Georgia to End Same-Sex Marriage Ban
Published: Tuesday, 22 April 2014 16:12
Federal Lawsuit Filed in Georgia to End Same-Sex Marriage Ban

A federal lawsuit has been filed against Georgia's ban on same-sex marriage.

Green Guide to an Eco-Friendly Wedding
Published: Tuesday, 22 April 2014 04:54
Green Guide to an Eco-Friendly Wedding

 Go green for your wedding theme using eco-friendly elements, from flowers to photography.

Charlotte + Clare: An Intimate Bristol Wedding
Published: Tuesday, 22 April 2014 02:41
Charlotte + Clare: An Intimate Bristol Wedding

Charlotte and Clare had an intimate wedding in Bristol!

Baby, It's Cold Outside: Planning a Chilly Spring Wedding
Published: Monday, 21 April 2014 19:36
Baby, It's Cold Outside: Planning a Chilly Spring Wedding

Spring weddings can come with fickle weather. Plan ahead!

Tips on Giving the Perfect Wedding Gift
Published: Monday, 21 April 2014 13:40
Tips on Giving the Perfect Wedding Gift

If you’ve been invited to a wedding and are unsure what to gift the brides or grooms, consider two factors: your own personal budget, and your relationship with the couple.

Susan + Jana: A Rustic Catskill Mountain Wedding
Published: Monday, 21 April 2014 17:29
Susan + Jana: A Rustic Catskill Mountain Wedding

Susan and Jana were married in the Catskill Mountains!

Ohio Gay Marriage Ruling is Stayed
Published: Friday, 18 April 2014 14:29
Ohio Gay Marriage Ruling is Stayed

The Ohio gay marriage ruling has been stayed. Appeals will likely take months.


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The written word can be intimidating for those who don’t necessarily fall into the creative category. Especially when that narrative is to be spoken aloud, in front of all your friends and family, and is expected to encompass the impossible: expressing in a five-minute monologue how much you love your partner.

However, the rules for these oaths aren’t written in stone, and no one says you have to tap into your own talents (or lack thereof). Couples who aren’t comfortable at writing their own wedding vows are turning to talented friends or even outsourcing to professional wordsmiths.

“For so many people, saying their vows is a crowning moment in their relationship—the culmination and the single most important and meaningful moment of their wedding,” says Karen Davis, who writes vows and other speech types for a living for her company Rhymes by Design. “People re-read and refer to their vows over the years and they tend to be—and become—a cornerstone of their original intention in getting married, so, it matters that they be as relevant and vibrant years later as they were the moment they first vowed them.”

In order to put feelings to paper, Davis interviews the couple either in person or on the phone, and walks them through a series of questions that help define elements of their relationship and what direction they’d like to take the vows. Capturing the essence of their personalities as individuals and as a couple, while conveying the vision of their intention isn’t easy to do … even for a professional. “It is both challenging and thrilling, to hit that note,” she exclaims. “It is a special privilege to be part of this expression and one that deserves great thought and care. On that note, I share the same feeling about vows that most couples tend to have … that they simply have to be perfect. We continue to refine them until everyone is completely satisfied—though deliriously happy is the goal.”

Though each couple takes their love story down a different path, whether it be heartfelt or humorous, there is one underlying theme. “What’s personal to them in their relationship … it’s the sharing of their special bond, woven into a story or picture, that's what people like.”

 

Photo: Real Wedding Lauren and Lauren, photography by Alissa Dinneen Photography

 

 

Brittny Drye is the senior editor at Equally Wed, the nation's premier online magazine for gay and lesbian weddings and honeymoons. Follow her on Twitter @BrittnyDrye.


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