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Ohio Gay Marriage Ruling is Stayed
Published: Friday, 18 April 2014 14:29
Ohio Gay Marriage Ruling is Stayed

The Ohio gay marriage ruling has been stayed. Appeals will likely take months.

How to Get Legally Married in Vermont
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 22:19
How to Get Legally Married in Vermont

All you need to know about getting legally married in Vermont!

How to Get Legally Married in Rhode Island
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 21:44
How to Get Legally Married in Rhode Island

Same-sex couples can be legally married in Rhode Island. 

Patricia + Julissa: An Autumn Wedding Under the Texas Sun
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 20:49
Patricia + Julissa: An Autumn Wedding Under the Texas Sun

Patricia and Julissa were married under the hot desert sun of the Texas landscape!

Oklahoma Marriage Equality Case Appealing to 10th Circuit
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 18:15
Oklahoma Marriage Equality Case Appealing to 10th Circuit

The 10th Circuit is hearing arguments in the Oklahoma marriage equality case.

Under the Tux: Wedding Day Undergarments for Men
Published: Thursday, 17 April 2014 17:09
Under the Tux: Wedding Day Undergarments for Men

Guys, it's not all about the tux. Wow your man with some fun unmentionables!

Barbie + Alexa: An Intimate Garden Wedding in DC
Published: Wednesday, 16 April 2014 18:48
Barbie + Alexa: An Intimate Garden Wedding in DC

Barbie and Alexa decided to make their love legal on their 8-year anniversary!

Wednesday Wedding Song: All of Me by John Legend
Published: Wednesday, 16 April 2014 08:00
Wednesday Wedding Song: All of Me by John Legend

John Legend's song All of Me touches me to my core every time I hear it, and that's why I'm choosing it as this week's Wednesday Wedding Song.

Ohio Marriage Ruling May Be Stayed
Published: Wednesday, 16 April 2014 02:23
Ohio Marriage Ruling May Be Stayed

A federal judge is considering staying his recent ruling that same-sex marriage be recognized in the state.

Patrick + Arive: Celebrating 10 Years Together
Published: Tuesday, 15 April 2014 19:31
Patrick + Arive: Celebrating 10 Years Together

Patrick and Arive recently celebrated 10 years of love together.

 
Capturing Love: The Art of Lesbian and Gay Wedding Photography

Marriage is steeped in tradition, but the institution is changing. Not just because gays and lesbians are being afforded the right to the legal benefits in an increasing amount of states, but because of the rise of feminists and the death of antiquated ideas such as when you get married, you are your husband’s property, and he can do whatever he wants with and to you. The promise to obey isn’t included in hardly anyone’s vows anymore. And so when we wed—gay or straight—it is as equals. More couples, especially gays and lesbians, are now choosing to both walk down the aisle, accompanied by a supportive family member or friend, but not being “given away.” 

 
Two grooms on their wedding day by Jen Lynne Photography

Two grooms on their wedding day | Jen Lynne Photography
 
Yes, weddings are changing, and the professionals in the industry have long been in need of resource to help them sort out how to best help gays and lesbians marrying. Capturing Love: The Art of Gay and Lesbian Wedding Photography is a quintessential guide for wedding vendors, especially photographers, seeking to better understand the dynamics of same-sex relationships and how they translate to the wedding day. But perhaps just as crucial to point out is that it's a visual celebration of love and commitment, and I think it's a must-read for vendors, couples (gay and straight) planning their weddings and die-hard romantics.
 
Two lesbian brides in love | Kat Forder Photography
 
Two brides in love | Kat Forder Photography

 

It all came together when Thea Dodds, photographer and owner of Authentic Eye Photography, a boutique wedding and portrait studio based in New Hampshire, called Kathryn Hamm, president of GayWeddings.com, an online store and resource for gay and lesbian weddings, to see if she’d be interested in helping her create a how-to instructional on photographing gay and lesbian couples. 
 
Engagement session for lesbian couple | CHARD Photographer
 
Engagement session for lesbian couple | CHARD Photographer

“As a professional photographer, I am constantly trying to improve my skill set. I attend seminars, workshops, expos, webinars, you name it,” says Dodds. “Despite the growing number of same-sex marriages I have not come across a single how-to resource for photographing same-sex couples. There is an enormous amount of instruction in how to pose and photograph a man and woman but nothing to my knowledge about how to pose and photograph two men or two women.” 
 
Two grooms kiss in the city | Leslie Barbaro Photography
 
Two grooms kiss in the city | Leslie Barbaro Photography

 

Capturing Love features 38 photographers and 46 same-sex couples. Narrowing them down was tough. “In choosing these photographs, we sifted through thousands of engagement and wedding images before selecting those that illustrate key points about the art of photographing same-sex couples, while honestly representing an incredibly diverse community,” says Dodds. “The three critical questions we asked while making image selections were: Are these images authentic? Do these images reflect intimacy? Are these images believable? In the end, we chose photos that were powerful, clever and diverse.” 
 

Capturing Love co-author Kathryn Hamm, left, and Amy Walter on their wedding day | Photo by Suly Uberman

Capturing Love co-author Kathryn Hamm, left, and Amy Walter on their wedding day 
Photo by Suly Uberman

We're fighting for the same rights as hetero couples, yet we need photographers to recognize that we aren't the same as hetero couples. Why? This is the question I pose to Hamm, to get her take on the tricky double-edged sword we deal with in our industry. “I've pitched this book to several mainstream outlets and one of the reasons some folks have been skeptical about it is because of the mistaken belief that gay weddings are the same as straight weddings,” replies Hamm. “It's well-intentioned, to be sure. And, I'm certainly glad that we are parsing words over an expectation of equality! But, while we want the recognition of our legal partnerships to be considered equal, and though we may pay the same amount to book a wedding venue on a Saturday night in June, there are some nuanced differences between straight and gay weddings. For example, to presume that a pose that works for a male-female couple (and all its implied messages about sexuality, gender and power) might work as a pose for a male-male couple or female-female couple can, at best, be awkward and, at worst, offensive. What Thea and I really want to do is to help photographers understand is that it's essential that one meet a couple where they are—regardless of sexual orientation—and capture the authentic and intimate expressions of their relationship. And, in Capturing Love, we do our best to offer some simple but explicit suggestions for photographing same-sex couples that have not historically been included in photography education.”
 
Engagement photography session for two grooms | Meredith Hanafi Photography
 
Engagement photography session for two grooms | Meredith Hanafi Photography

Capturing Love: The Art of Lesbian & Gay Wedding Photography (Authentic Weddings, January 30, 2013, $32.95), is currently sold on Lulu.com. A Kindle version is expected to be available February 14, and an iBook and NOOK version are coming soon.

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Always Among Friends: St. John, U.S. Virgin Islands
Always Among Friends: St. John, U.S. Virgin Islands
Published: Friday, 21 February 2014 00:56

Many consider the island of St. John to be the jewel in the Caribbean crown. Affluent and tranquil, this tiny tropical paradise is only 13 miles long and four miles wide.

Glaciers, Humpbacks and Bears, Oh My: Honeymoon on an Alaskan Cruise
Glaciers, Humpbacks and Bears, Oh My: Honeymoon on an Alaskan Cruise
Published: Tuesday, 18 June 2013 19:11

Cruises serving the LGBT community have long been popular, but gay-friendly traveling options are widening as cruise lines increasingly welcome same-sex couples. 

Pocono Mountains Retreat: Mount Airy Casino Resort
Pocono Mountains Retreat: Mount Airy Casino Resort
Published: Tuesday, 30 April 2013 05:00

Mount Airy Casino Resort offers a picturesque honeymoon and wedding destination to gay, lesbian and allied couples alike.

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Our Families Don't Know We're Queer or Our Gender Identification and We're Getting Married
Our Families Don't Know We're Queer or Our Gender Identification and We're Getting Married
Published: Tuesday, 08 April 2014 05:00

As we approach our engagement party where our families will meet our partner for the first time, as well as each other, we are feeling really nervous that they will be uncomfortable and confused.