[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BlogPosting","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/ask-the-editor-my-future-sister-in-law-wants-to-be-in-our-wedding-party\/#BlogPosting","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/ask-the-editor-my-future-sister-in-law-wants-to-be-in-our-wedding-party\/","headline":"Ask the Editor: My Future Sister-in-Law Wants to Be in Our Wedding Party","name":"Ask the Editor: My Future Sister-in-Law Wants to Be in Our Wedding Party","description":"By Brittny Drye Reader Question: My future husband\u2019s sister wants to be in our wedding party, however, there are a few issues I have with...","datePublished":"2012-10-03","dateModified":"2021-07-08","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/#Person","name":"Equally Wed","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/","identifier":787,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Equally Wed","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/gay-wedding-party.jpg","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/gay-wedding-party.jpg","height":397,"width":600},"url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/ask-the-editor-my-future-sister-in-law-wants-to-be-in-our-wedding-party\/","about":["Planning"],"wordCount":374,"articleBody":" By Brittny DryeReader Question: My future husband\u2019s sister wants to be in our wedding party, however, there are a few issues I have with this.She\u2019ll be the only female (won\u2019t that look weird in pictures?) and her and I don\u2019t exactly get along. She\u2019s prone to drama and I don\u2019t want any on my wedding day. I should note that we’re also selecting our wedding party together, as opposed to having separate sides. What should I do?Editor Answer: What\u2019s great about same-sex weddings is that any gender can be on any side of the wedding party (though, I\u2019ve noticed even straight couples have started to follow our lead) so don\u2019t be afraid to have mixed gender groomspeople. As long as the outfits are cohesive, the photographs will turn out great. Take a cue from Cynthia and Dana’s wedding (pictured above) which had six bridesmaids in flirty lavender frocks and one maid of honor and one man of honor, Cynthia’s brother, in luxe navy.It\u2019s understandable that you don\u2019t want drama on your big day, but whether you like it or not, she is going to soon be family. If you have room in the wedding party, she should be included, otherwise you\u2019ll be dealing with the diss at family gatherings for years to come. Enlist one of your attendants to be on drama duty to ensure she doesn\u2019t get in the way of your special day. Of course, I wouldn\u2019t push out a VIP (i.e. your best friend who introduced the two of you and truly deserves to be up there) in order to make room. If there simply isn\u2019t space at the altar, kindly explain to her that the wedding party has already been selected but you really want her to be a part of your wedding. Duties you can give her include doing a reading during the ceremony, being a guestbook attendant, or doing a toast at the reception.Have a question for our editors? Email us at       etiquette@equallywed.com and we’ll try our best to answer!Photo: Real Wedding Cynthia and Dana, photography by Hudson River Photography"},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Ask the Editor: My Future Sister-in-Law Wants to Be in Our Wedding Party","item":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/ask-the-editor-my-future-sister-in-law-wants-to-be-in-our-wedding-party\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]