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Jones Clifton Thomas and Adam Stewart are celebrating six months of married...","datePublished":"2010-12-21","dateModified":"2021-06-21","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/#Person","name":"Equally Wed","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/","identifier":787,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Equally Wed","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/real-gay-weddings_adam-and-cliff.jpg","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/real-gay-weddings_adam-and-cliff.jpg","height":282,"width":637},"url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/going-the-distance\/","about":["Real LGBTQ+ Weddings from Equally Wed"],"wordCount":1067,"articleBody":" Going the Distance This Southern love story is anything but old-fashioned By L.A. JonesClifton Thomas and Adam Stewart are celebrating six months of married life in December 2010, all thanks to the whims of Adam\u2019s junk mail filter. At least, that\u2019s what got it started. Adam didn\u2019t use his Yahoo! Personals account much and most of the website\u2019s e-mail alerts were automatically tagged junk mail. Mysteriously, a \u201crecommended match\u201d notification slipped through to his inbox one day. \u201cI was intrigued and decided to reply. A year and a half later, Cliff moved from Houston to Atlanta, and two years after that, we were married,\u201d Adam explains. \u201cOnce I knew Cliff was going to move, I knew that I would propose,\u201d says Adam. And he did, with a little help from Taco Bell. \u201cI used their hot sauce packet with \u2018Will you marry me?\u2019 on it as a prop,\u201d he says. Adam followed the spicy suggestion up with a much spicier diamond and sapphire channel-set band. Not only did Cliff say \u2018yes,\u2019 but he surprised Adam with a diamond channel-set band a few weeks later from the same company, Sun Jewelry in Los Angeles. \u201cMarriage is the ultimate pledge that you will stick by someone no matter how hard times get,\u201d states Adam, \u201cSo that\u2019s a very reassuring thing, since relationships are not easy at all.\u201d It isn\u2019t made any easier by the currently limited status of same-gender unions throughout the nation. No strangers to traveling for the sake of love, Adam and Cliff had to go the extra mile for a bona fide marriage certificate. \u201cWe wanted to get married in Massachusetts because it was the first state to recognize our union as marriage,\u201d says Adam. The biggest aspect of wedding planning impacted by their choice to marry in Massachusetts was the size of the guest list. Thirty-nine friends and family members did attend, but some special people could not. \u201cOn the positive side, we were able to spend plenty of time with every guest,\u201d says Adam, \u201cWe never felt overwhelmed trying to make time to speak to everyone in attendance, and so we got to make sure we enjoyed our dinner, too!\u201d Braving organizational hassles, Adam and Cliff took it on themselves to plan the wedding. Ultimately, they deemed the experience rewarding and fun. \u201cEven though we were engaged for two years, we didn\u2019t really start planning the wedding until a year before we tied the knot,\u201d says Adam. One hurdle came in trying to pin down the few guests that did get an invite. \u201cIt was an incredible challenge to get some of our guests to RSVP,\u201d says Cliff, \u201cWe heard about that from previously married friends, but it was still surprising that we had to place calls and send e-mails trying to find out who would attend.\u201d \u201cSince we wanted a legal wedding, we had to plan the entire thing from afar. We only got to visit Massachusetts one time during the planning,\u201d says Adam. Friends proved to be a great advantage as well, acting as \u201ceyes from afar.\u201d Rob and Anne McWaters, two of the couple\u2019s closest friends, happened to live near the wedding location and could provide immeasurable help. As a wedding gift, the McWaters even handled all the decorations and flowers, choosing white calla lilies and red Gerber daisies. \u201cIt was truly an amazing and special gift,\u201d Adam says, \u201cThey really did a great job with everything!\u201d The ceremony and reception were held at the Griffin Museum of Photography in Winchester, Mass., on July 10, 2010. {loadposition easysspadamandcliff}Photography by Katherine Atteberry Guests dined on catered delights from Green Olive, including dried cranberry salad; chicken picatta; mahi mahi with a green gazpacho sauce; fresh pasta with tomatoes, parsley and garlic; and haricot verts with roasted almonds and a roasted red potato salad. The wedding cake was a dark chocolate sponge cake with butter cream frosting, with alternating layers of a cinnamon-walnut ganache and mocha butter cream frosting. Adam\u2019s parents hosted a Sunday morning brunch for the attendees at J.J. Foley\u2019s Irish pub that was talked about for weeks. A reception of hors d\u2019oeuvres, drinks and dancing late into the night finished the special evening perfectly. Playing off their interracial union, the grooms decided on a black and white theme. \u201cPlus, black and white never go out of style, making it simple but elegant,\u201d Adam adds. While Cliff donned a white tuxedo jacket, Adam simply chose to wear his own. Both sported boutonni\u00e8res of a single white calla lily. \u201cEvery person who was a part of the ceremony was one of our best friends,\u201d Adam says. Lolita Morrow was the state-designated officiate, Rob McWaters and Eboni Williams read selections, and Jeff Hindman played the guitar for their entrance and the recessional. \u201cHaving people close to us perform the ceremony made it absolutely perfect,\u201d Adam says. >Rob and his wife Anne were not the only McWaters to play an integral role in the warm, hand-crafted ceremony. Their son Ben, only 22 months old at the time, took on the role of ring-bearer, carrying two tungsten carbide wedding bands in a basket down the aisle \u201cIt really was everything we wanted. I guess being guys, a wedding is never something we sat and planned as we were growing up,\u201d Cliff says, \u201cBut I really would not have changed a thing.  The only thing missing is national recognition, but hopefully that is coming soon!\u201d As for the process, Adam has his priorities straight. \u201cUltimately, it doesn\u2019t matter if it rains, if you don\u2019t have everything rehearsed perfectly, or if any little thing goes wrong on the day of the wedding,\u201d he says, \u201cIt just matters that everyone has fun and that you marry the person you love.\u201d When asked what advice they have for other soon-to-be-weds, Cliff, a middle school English teacher, has the perfect lesson plan. \u201cThe day really does go by quickly. Try your best to enjoy each second of the wedding,\u201d he reminds couples, \u201cMake sure you do what you prefer. It really is your day. Also, we are really glad we decided to get married somewhere it is legal. There is truly something special about getting a real marriage certificate. Finally, create your own traditions. Be creative since you are not bound to any traditional expectations!\u201d"},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Real Weddings: Adam and Cliff","item":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/going-the-distance\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]