[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BlogPosting","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/jews-claim-same-sex-marriages-more-fair-than-straight-ones\/#BlogPosting","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/jews-claim-same-sex-marriages-more-fair-than-straight-ones\/","headline":"Jews claim same-sex marriages more fair than straight ones","name":"Jews claim same-sex marriages more fair than straight ones","description":"This past spring, a committee that creates laws for the Conservative Jewish movement approved two ceremonies for same-sex marriage, both of which eliminates the need...","datePublished":"2012-09-12","dateModified":"2021-07-08","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/eweditors\/#Person","name":"Equally Wed","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/eweditors\/","identifier":3,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Equally Wed","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/real-gay-jewish-wedding-ketubah.jpg","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/real-gay-jewish-wedding-ketubah.jpg","height":400,"width":600},"url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/jews-claim-same-sex-marriages-more-fair-than-straight-ones\/","about":["Marriage Equality News"],"wordCount":438,"keywords":["brides","Jewish","straight"],"articleBody":"This past spring, a committee that creates laws for the Conservative Jewish movement approved two ceremonies for same-sex marriage, both of which eliminates the need for a traditional dominant party in a union.In place of the ownership formula of a kiddushin which heterosexual couples use, same-sex ceremonies are declaring a kinyan, or acquisition, not of each other but of the partnership itself.Another area of change created specifically for same-sex couples is divorce. Traditionally speaking, only a man can terminate a Jewish marriage, but obviously this cannot be utilized in a lesbian marriage. Therefore, the same-sex model allows either party to dissolve the marriage because, as the rabbis noted, if only a man can initiate a divorce, in a marriage of two women, presumably nobody could.The key points in the liturgy being changed are ones that liberal, straight Jewish brides have been fighting for for years, and now, they are arguing that same-sex marriage, in the eyes of the Jewish faith, is more fair than heterosexual.\u201cI think it might put some pressure [on the movement],” Aurora Mendelsohn, 39, who wrote her own ketubah with her husband, told the New York Post. \u201cMore people will see these totally egalitarian ceremonies and say, \u2018Why should I have less of a role than my groom, when these two men get to do something equal?\u2019”(I see their point, but it\u2019s really difficult to empathize when LGBTQ+ couples can only have their marriage even legally recognized in a handful of states \u2026)Still though, their arguments are putting pressure on rabbis to change the language for all, gay and straight, and make it more egalitarian, and as we move into our modern times, I think that\u2019s a good path to take. As many of our Real Couples have proved in their Jewish ceremonies, you can incorporate tradition in a way that\u2019s prevalent to today. Is it kosher? Technically not, but we\u2019ve also evolved beyond a marriage involving ownership of another.\u201cWhile some heterosexual couples may see in these new models of brit (covenant) and shutafut (partnership) for same-sex couples a basis for abandoning the traditional model of kiddushin, Conservative Judaism has taught us to respect ancient liturgy and to minimize modifications of text,\u201d wrote Rabbi Avram Israel Reisner, of Baltimore, who wrote the liturgy along with Rabbi Elliot Dorff of Los Angeles and Rabbi Daniel Nevins, dean of the Rabbinical School at the Jewish Theological Seminary in New York.\u201cInnovation has its rightful place beside tradition, but not in its stead,\u201d Reisner wrote.Photo: Real Weddings Kim and Randie, photography by Bre Sessions and Dina Kantor Photography"},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Jews claim same-sex marriages more fair than straight ones","item":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/jews-claim-same-sex-marriages-more-fair-than-straight-ones\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]