[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BlogPosting","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/my-family-says-i-should-call-my-wedding-a-commitment-ceremony\/#BlogPosting","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/my-family-says-i-should-call-my-wedding-a-commitment-ceremony\/","headline":"My Family Says I Should Call My Wedding A Commitment Ceremony","name":"My Family Says I Should Call My Wedding A Commitment Ceremony","description":"Q I live in Florida, where same-sex marriage is not yet legally recognized. But my girlfriend and I are planning a wedding here anyways. Our...","datePublished":"2012-02-11","dateModified":"2021-06-25","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/#Person","name":"Equally Wed","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/","identifier":787,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Equally Wed","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60},"url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/my-family-says-i-should-call-my-wedding-a-commitment-ceremony\/","about":["Ask Kirsten"],"wordCount":269,"articleBody":" Q I live in Florida, where same-sex marriage is not yet legally recognized. But my girlfriend and I are planning a wedding here anyways. Our families are being fairly supportive, but my mother is telling me I can\u2019t put the words \u201cwedding\u201d or \u201cmarriage\u201d on our invitation, but instead, she tells me I need to use the words \u201ccommitment ceremony\u201d and \u201cpartnership.\u201d I\u2019m not partnering my girlfriend though\u2014I\u2019m marrying her! What should I do?  A This is one of those issues that gets me more fired up than a pig at a Hawaiian luau. A wedding is a wedding, no matter the gender of the individuals getting married. You should absolutely, unequivocally use the words that you want to use on your wedding invitation, which ought to include \u201cwedding\u201d and \u201cmarriage.\u201d Whether your mother is just living in the Dark Ages or she\u2019s scared of what people might think when they receive your wedding invitation is not the issue here. The problem is that she doesn\u2019t mind you having a public celebration of your commitment to each other, but she doesn\u2019t want to share her traditions and rights with you. Ask her if she\u2019d like you to drink from a separate water fountain, too, and see if she doesn\u2019t then understand the type of discrimination she\u2019s trying to enforce on you.Kirsten Ott Palladino is the editor-in-chief and cofounder of Equally Wed, the nation’s premier online magazine for gay and lesbian weddings and honeymoons. Follow her @kirs10palladino and subscribe to her newsfeed on Facebook. "},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"My Family Says I Should Call My Wedding A Commitment Ceremony","item":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/my-family-says-i-should-call-my-wedding-a-commitment-ceremony\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]