[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BlogPosting","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/two-brides-but-only-one-can-have-a-fatherdaughter-dance-selfish\/#BlogPosting","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/two-brides-but-only-one-can-have-a-fatherdaughter-dance-selfish\/","headline":"Two Brides But Only One Can Have a Father\/Daughter Dance — Selfish?","name":"Two Brides But Only One Can Have a Father\/Daughter Dance — Selfish?","description":"Q I\u2019d love to have a father\/daughter dance at my wedding, but my new stepmom has completely poisoned my dad\u2019s view on gay marriage, as...","datePublished":"2012-08-01","dateModified":"2021-07-08","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/#Person","name":"Equally Wed","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/","identifier":787,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Equally Wed","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60},"url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/two-brides-but-only-one-can-have-a-fatherdaughter-dance-selfish\/","about":["Ask Kirsten"],"wordCount":352,"articleBody":"Q I\u2019d love to have a father\/daughter dance at my wedding,   but my new stepmom has completely poisoned my dad\u2019s view on gay marriage, as   well as my relationship with Heather, my fianc\u00e9e. So unfortunately, he\u2019s not   coming to the wedding. As much as this breaks my heart, I know I can\u2019t do   anything to change his mind. But my lovely wife-to-be does have a great dad   who\u2019s coming to the wedding. She\u2019s offered to not do the traditional   father\/daughter dance, out of respect for me and my situation. But I want her   to do it for herself. What do you think? Is it odd for one bride to do the   father\/daughter dance, and the other to not?A I\u2019m so sorry about your dad. I know that must   really hurt. Not knowing the timeline of your wedding, there may still be   time to resolve your problems with him and possibly have him attend the   wedding, sans the wicked stepmother, of course. If he doesn\u2019t show, I do   think that Heather and her father deserve that special dance, if they want it   for themselves. (Many couples have done away with this tradition all   together, and hardly anyone except for stuffy Aunt Marge even notices.)   Encourage your wife-to-be to embrace this wedding as her own, as well as for   both of you. A wedding is a time to strengthen the bonds with the family who   love us, and a father\/daughter dance is a very special way to demonstrate a   proud father\u2019s sincere love and support for his daughter and the woman she\u2019s   married. You\u2019re very lucky to be marrying into a family who cares so much for   their daughter. Congrats to you both.\u00a0Kirsten Ott   Palladino is the co-founder and editor in chief of Equally Wed, the nation\u2019s   leading gay and lesbian wedding and honeymoon magazine. Follow her on Twitter.   Connect with her on Facebook. Write her with your gay wedding questions. If she can’t   answer it, she’ll find another expert who can!"},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Two Brides But Only One Can Have a Father\/Daughter Dance — Selfish?","item":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/two-brides-but-only-one-can-have-a-fatherdaughter-dance-selfish\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]