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I think that since we\u2019ve been living together for five years   already, it\u2019s not bad luck to stay together the night before we commit to   each other for the rest of our lives. She completely disagrees, saying that   not only is it bad luck, but it\u2019s also tradition. I\u2019m already going to be   nervous enough about the big day\u2014I think spending the night apart will make   it even harder! What do you think?A I think that it matters what you two think, and   that\u2019s it. Don\u2019t give into pressures of society, well-meaning friends or   relatives. That being said, you two will most definitely have to come to some   sort of agreement before nightfall on wedding eve. Historically, the engaged   couple has spent the night apart before their wedding day, but they\u2019ve also   spent all of their nights alone, because they\u2019re saving themselves for   marriage and they certainly didn\u2019t shack up with their intended before making   it official before their friends, family and higher power. But in 2010,   modern couples\u2014be they gay or straight or somewhere in the middle\u2014are   shacking up before getting married. And I\u2019ve yet to hear from any gay couple   who didn\u2019t move in together before their wedding. That being said, I\u2019m all   for tradition, and I adore the idea of keeping some mystery between each   other\u2014what the other one is thinking (frightful nerves of being on display or   filled with romantic fantasies about the rest of your life together); doing   (writing last-minute vows perhaps? Or maybe a sweet love poem to slip into   her suit pocket just before saying \u201cI do.\u201d Or possibly saving your   bachelor\/ette party until the night before the wedding and slamming down   Jaegerbombs at the local bar (not recommended!); or wearing (trying on your   outfit one last time). Imagine not seeing your gorgeous fianc\u00e9e for 24 hours   leading up to your wedding day. All that fun, breathless anticipation! And   then when you do lay eyes on her\u2014either at the altar or just before for your   couple portraits\u2014how your heart will melt! This is your wedding day. Make it   as special as you can. You only get to do it once! So if you can get into   that romantic tradition, go for it! If it\u2019s not for you, it\u2019s time to   convince your lady how much fun you can show her the night before the big day   when she\u2019s still an unwedded bachelorette.Kirsten Ott   Palladino is the co-founder and editor in chief of Equally Wed, the nation\u2019s   leading gay and lesbian wedding and honeymoon magazine. Follow her on Twitter.   Connect with her on Facebook. Write her with your gay wedding questions. If she can’t   answer it, she’ll find another expert who can!"},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"We Disagree On Whether or Not to Spend the Night Before Our Wedding Together","item":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/we-disagree-on-whether-or-not-to-spend-the-night-before-our-wedding-together\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]