[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BlogPosting","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/we-keep-getting-legally-hitched-should-we-keep-sending-announcements\/#BlogPosting","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/we-keep-getting-legally-hitched-should-we-keep-sending-announcements\/","headline":"We Keep Getting Legally Hitched — Should We Keep Sending Announcements?","name":"We Keep Getting Legally Hitched — Should We Keep Sending Announcements?","description":"Q My partner and I were one of the 4,000 couples wed in San Francisco in February 2004. Then we were annulled by the Supreme...","datePublished":"2011-11-07","dateModified":"2021-06-21","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/#Person","name":"Equally Wed","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/admin\/","identifier":787,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/ca62cf123aaaf135c80b055249bacbda79de9226e11cdfcde6529bedf89683de?s=96&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Equally Wed","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60},"url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/we-keep-getting-legally-hitched-should-we-keep-sending-announcements\/","about":["Ask Kirsten"],"wordCount":509,"articleBody":" Q My partner and I were one of the 4,000 couples wed in   San Francisco in February 2004. Then we were annulled by the Supreme Court of   California! But not before we’d sent out wedding announcements. Now we hope   to wed again, but probably not even on the same date. We do celebrate the   date now. Do we send out a second announcement after our second wedding or is   it better to let it slide under the radar? Nothing worse than seeming to be   unable to make a marriage stick! The State has really killed the joy!A Congrats on the longevity of your relationship! So   let me see if I understand this correctly. Your 2004 marriage was legally   recognized and you sent out wedding announcements after the fact. I\u2019m   guessing you didn\u2019t throw a wedding ceremony and reception? Then the State of   California retracted its recognition of that marriage. Now you\u2019re planning to   travel to another state to have another legally recognized union, and you\u2019re   wondering if you should send out more announcements? Well, it depends on how   you feel about your current relationship. I personally view you as already   married. Historically, a marriage was bound by the vows made by the couple in   question and the witnesses at the ceremony\u2014not an embossed slip of paper   bestowed upon select recipients deemed worthy by the majority of the   particular country you\u2019re in. Of course, the government eventually did get   involved. But marriage can be a social contract or a legal one. So even if   the government in your neck of the woods hasn\u2019t caught up to states such as   Connecticut, Vermont and Massachusetts in terms of marriage equality, your   marriage is still valid in the eyes of society\u2014society being your community   of friends and family, our straight-but-not-narrow allies and the gay   community at large. All this to say that your affirmation to your relationship in a state that   cares about marriage equality is important for many reasons, and it\u2019s   definitely something to celebrate with a party back home or just more   announcements to let everyone know of this important decision you and your   loved one have made. We love the wedding announcements on gay-owned online   stationer Outvite.com. But I\u2019d suggest giving the wording a sense of tongue-in-cheek humor so the   recipients understand exactly what\u2019s taken place\u2014that you\u2019ve traveled to   another state to have legal recognition of your marriage, not that you   separated and have married once again. For example:  David and John are overjoyed to announce that they\u2019re now legally wed in   the state of Connecticut, as of June 16, 2010. They\u2019re still happily nesting in   their home at (fill in address).Kirsten Ott   Palladino is the co-founder and editor in chief of Equally Wed, the nation\u2019s   leading gay and lesbian wedding and honeymoon magazine. Follow her on Twitter.   Connect with her on Facebook. Write her with your gay wedding questions. If she can’t   answer it, she’ll find another expert who can!"},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"We Keep Getting Legally Hitched — Should We Keep Sending Announcements?","item":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/we-keep-getting-legally-hitched-should-we-keep-sending-announcements\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]