[{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BlogPosting","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/who-walks-down-the-aisle-and-who-waits-at-the-altar-in-a-lesbian-wedding\/#BlogPosting","mainEntityOfPage":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/who-walks-down-the-aisle-and-who-waits-at-the-altar-in-a-lesbian-wedding\/","headline":"Who Walks Down the Aisle and Who Waits at the Altar in a Lesbian Wedding?","name":"Who Walks Down the Aisle and Who Waits at the Altar in a Lesbian Wedding?","description":"Who walks down the aisle, who waits at the altar, does it matter if you\u2019re in a suit or a dress? What\u2019s correct for our...","datePublished":"2013-11-24","dateModified":"2021-06-30","author":{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/kirsten\/#Person","name":"Kirsten Ott Palladino","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/author\/kirsten\/","identifier":789,"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/976931d3a7979cc2fa35b3cc231dcae43d918e04819805bcb68e3c11a00eebae?s=96&r=g","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/976931d3a7979cc2fa35b3cc231dcae43d918e04819805bcb68e3c11a00eebae?s=96&r=g","height":96,"width":96}},"publisher":{"@type":"Organization","name":"Equally Wed","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","url":"http:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/equally-wed-lgbtq-weddings-logo.jpg","width":218,"height":60}},"image":{"@type":"ImageObject","@id":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/kirsten-palladino-headshot.jpg","url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/kirsten-palladino-headshot.jpg","height":397,"width":600},"url":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/who-walks-down-the-aisle-and-who-waits-at-the-altar-in-a-lesbian-wedding\/","about":["Ask Kirsten"],"wordCount":372,"keywords":["advice","femme","gay wedding","Kirsten Ott Palladino"],"articleBody":" Who walks down the aisle, who waits at the altar, does it matter if you\u2019re in a suit or a dress? What\u2019s correct for our gay wedding?\u00a0Who walks down the aisle, who waits at the altar, does it matter if you\u2019re in a suit or a dress? What\u2019s correct for our gay wedding? For background, both my fianc\u00e9e and I are wearing simple white wedding dresses. Neither of us are particularly butch or femme. Jenny M.Dear Jenny,The beauty of gay weddings\u2014well, there\u2019s much that\u2019s beautiful about our weddings\u2014but at the core of planning one is that it is a celebration of love and a lifetime commitment between two consenting adults. It is not a straight wedding, yet we can look to the history of their weddings for traditions we want to keep and, similarly, things we\u2019re not interested in claiming as our own. That being said, how you approach the altar is up to you. I\u2019ve seen lesbian brides walk up holding hands. In our Real Weddings section, we feature two butch brides, Stephanie and Julie, who walked up separately with their fathers. We also showcase Jonathan and Steve, two grooms who walked up the aisle together hand in hand. For my own wedding, Maria, who\u2019s totally masculine and loves the traditional stuff as I do, wanted to wait at the altar for me in her white suit. And that allowed me to shine as the bride. The point is all our weddings are perfect because we\u2019re doing what is most comfortable for us\u2014and you should, too. Whether you\u2019re in a gown, a suit or a grass skirt and a lei at an island-themed destination wedding. Do what feels right, and it\u2019ll all come together naturally. Plus, when you\u2019re at ease, the guests will be at ease. Kirsten Ott Palladino is the co-founder and editor in chief ofEqually Wed, an award-winning wedding and honeymoon magazine for gay, lesbian, transgender, bisexual, queer and allied couples.\u00a0Follow Kirsten on\u00a0Twitter. Connect with her on\u00a0Facebook.Write herwith your gay wedding questions. If she can’t answer it, she’ll find another expert who can!"},{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org\/","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Who Walks Down the Aisle and Who Waits at the Altar in a Lesbian Wedding?","item":"https:\/\/equallywed.com\/who-walks-down-the-aisle-and-who-waits-at-the-altar-in-a-lesbian-wedding\/#breadcrumbitem"}]}]