<\/a><\/p>\nWe don\u2019t talk enough about the grief of wedding planning. I (Angela) had an expectation of a big say yes to the dress moment that I didn\u2019t even know I had until I realized I wasn\u2019t going to have that moment and felt sad and upset about it. It took me a long time to figure out what I wanted to wear. I wanted a jumpsuit, not a full suit, not a dress. Wedding clothing companies may have a jumpsuit or two but will they have plus-sized garments made for my body? That\u2019s a toss-up. I ended up buying a lot of jumpsuits from different companies and having our wedding party and my mom on zoom while Adelyn helped me try them on at home. It was about the clothing, but it was also about the fact that we left our community and really missed them. And that\u2019s all real.<\/p>\n
Overall, the wedding industry isn\u2019t made with people like us, relationships like ours, and bodies like ours in mind. Even when people were fine with two brides, it wasn\u2019t queer. There are still binary expectations of femme and masc that just don\u2019t fit us. And that\u2019s hard to navigate.<\/p>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nDid you encounter any pleasant surprises as an LGBTQ+ couple or marriers planning your wedding?<\/h2>\n
Despite being in a more conservative place, we didn\u2019t experience the kind of backlash we expected. Our vendors were kind and generous and didn\u2019t put any weird gendered baggage on us. We were really excited by vendors and people in the community who just celebrated our love, were delighted by our presence and decision to get married in our new town. Having a queer wedding already breaks some of the usual wedding traditions and expectations. So it gave us more freedom to create what we wanted and leave behind what didn\u2019t fit us. Angela actually read the Equally Wed: The Ultimate Guide to Planning Your LGBTQ+ Wedding book<\/a> after getting engaged!
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