Tell us about your engagement(s)!<\/strong>
\nJenn planned to propose to Madeleine at the New York Botanical Garden, but COVID-19 shut down New York City and made that plan impossible. After a week of social isolation, we were feeling scared about the virus and our futures. <\/p>\nJenn: I knew in that moment that I had to ask her to marry me. I asked her to stay where she was and told her I’d be right back, and then ran out of the apartment and down two blocks until I found a bodega that sold flowers. I bought a bouquet of carnations and ran back, trying not to jostle them, up the stairs to our 4th floor walk-up and back into the bedroom where, out of breath, I proposed.<\/p>\n
Madeleine: I stayed where I was and wondered if she was about to propose. I felt excited and eager for her to come back. When she came back a few minutes later and proposed to me in our bedroom, it felt like the perfect moment. I said yes immediately.<\/p>\n
What were you inspired by while planning your wedding?<\/strong>
\nWe were inspired by nature; we wanted to get married outside, surrounded by flowers. We were inspired by the color palette of the flowers in bloom at our venue and by garden weddings we saw online. Because Madeleine is Jewish, we were inspired by Jewish wedding rituals, and we incorporated elements of Jewish tradition into our ceremony and reception. We were also inspired by lesbian weddings that we saw online as we reimagined the heterosexual wedding script.<\/p>\nWhat were some of your favorite wedding day details?<\/strong>
\nOur bespoke wedding ceremony, which we wrote ourselves. Honoring both of our parents. We both danced with our moms and our dads, and we were each escorted down the aisle by both parents. Members of our wedding party read our favorite poetry during the ceremony. Our ketubah. We wrote the ketubah text ourselves. We signed it privately before the ceremony and read from it during the ceremony. And all of the flowers that were in bloom!<\/p>\nDid you have any DIY details? If so, please share more about them.<\/strong>
\nA member of our bridal party put together a photo display of polaroid and printed photos of us together over the years. The photos were hung on small clothespins and suspended on twine pinned to a cork board.<\/p>\nTell us about your attire. What did you each wear and how did you choose it?<\/strong>
\nWe both wore dresses purchased at David’s Bridal. We went dress shopping together; we tried them on for each other and bought them that day. Jenn wore a dress from the David’s Bridal collection; Madeleine wore a dress by Melissa Sweet. We also both wore pearl necklaces that belonged to family members; Madeleine wore her grandmother’s necklace and Jenn wore her mother’s.<\/p>\nWhat would you say are some of your favorite wedding day memories?<\/strong>
\nFor Madeleine, walking down the aisle escorted by both parents and watching Jenn walk down the aisle towards her. Right before she stepped through the gate of the wedding garden and towards the aisle, a gray catbird landed on the gate just a couple of feet away. Seeing it land was so beautiful and serendipitous. It made her feel connected to nature as the ceremony began. For Jenn, walking down the aisle towards Madeleine, escorted by both parents.<\/p>\nOther favorite memories include signing the ketubah with our parents in the wedding garden gazebo before the ceremony; doing the Hora after dinner (being lifted on chairs by our strong, joyful family and friends was so much fun! It was the perfect way to celebrate.); family member’s toasts; seeing family and friends all dressed up, and celebrating in the garden with the people we love; our first dance together to Jackie Onassis by Sammy Rae & The Friends, a queer love song (we’d practiced some basics in the hotel room the night before!); writing notes to each other the morning of the wedding and reading them right before the ceremony; our friend Britt officiated our wedding, and having a friend marry us was very special; and toward the end of the night, we sang along with our guests to Bruce Springsteen’s “Thunder Road,” a tradition in Jenn’s family.<\/p>\n
What advice would you give to future couples planning their wedding?<\/strong>
\nDon’t plan a wedding while in law school if you can avoid it! Don\u2019t try to plan the whole thing alone! Lean on family and friends to help out with the details. Consider videography if you can afford it. We saved money by not hiring a videographer, but we wish that we could watch video of our wedding day. Try to have all details planned at least one week before the wedding. It was very stressful to be printing signs and finalizing details at the last minute! Try not to stress about the little details, because things WILL go wrong. The day of our wedding we were just so happy to be marrying each other, and to be with our loved ones, that it didn\u2019t matter when things didn\u2019t go according to plan.<\/p>\nIf you had a honeymoon, tell us where and describe some favorite parts of your trip.<\/strong>
\nWe had a belated honeymoon in Costa Rica six months after our wedding. We spent time in La Fortuna, Monteverde, and Manuel Antonio.<\/p>\nOur favorite parts include: relaxing on the beautiful beach & swimming in the clear Pacific ocean; seeing so much wildlife, including monkeys, sloths, and so many incredible tropical birds; going to the hot springs in La Fortuna together; driving through the country and seeing the landscape change through different microclimates; celebrating New Year\u2019s Eve in San Jos\u00e9; visiting a women\u2019s artist collective in Monteverde and buying handmade art from them; and eating breakfast on the beach in Manuel Antonio.<\/p>\n
Is there anything else you’d like to share about your big day?<\/strong>
\nWe had perfect early summer afternoon weather, despite our anxiety about having an outdoor wedding. We are extremely grateful for all of the help that our family and bridal party contributed, including setting everything up and handling problems in secret so we could enjoy the day. We had an afterparty at 1 Hotel Brooklyn Bridge, where we also stayed that night. <\/p>\nSearch our directory of LGBTQ+ inclusive vendors.<\/h2>\n