Sacramento, California, vegan lesbian wedding with ancestor table

Tangie and Melissa’s wedding starts with a love story rooted in meditation and manifestation.

They’re both spiritual beings who are firm believers in the power of manifestation and reconnecting with nature. Before Melissa and Tangie met, Melissa often meditated under a giant eucalyptus tree. During these meditation sessions, Melissa recited positive affirmations and meditated for the perfect partner.

On November 9, 2014, while taking a Sunday stroll to a movie matinee, Tangie asked Melissa if they could stop by the tree on their way to the movie to hug it, meditate with it, and recite their affirmations. Tangie had every intention to propose shortly after this exercise but she couldn’t get the ring out fast enough before Melissa said, “We should keep walking so that we aren’t late for our movie.” Tangie was in an instant panic because her proposal didn’t go as planned, she continued walking with Melissa.

Tangie was forced to come up with another plan to get Melissa back to the tree. Convinced there was no way she was going to sit through an entire movie with the ring burning a hole in her bag. Tangie then said, “OH NO! I think I dropped my phone back near the tree.”

In a panic, Melissa hurried back to the tree with Tangie running to catch up. Melissa swiftly paced around one side of the tree looking franticly for the phone, while Tangie walked around the other side fishing the ring out of her pocket. As Tangie saw Melissa coming toward her she grabbed her closer with the ring box in hand and said, “I found my phone.” (It was the ring.) Melissa confused by the wooden box, and said, “What happened to your phone?” Melissa was puzzled because Tangie’s phone also has a wooden case and the ring was in a wooden box.

Tangie then opened the wooden box, and said, “Will you marry me?”

Melissa’s confusion quickly turned into excitement, “Are you sure?”

Tangie replied, “Yes.”

[dropcap letter=”F”]or their wedding, Melissa tells Equally Wed that “June 5, 2016, is perhaps one of the best days of my life. Our love is indeed a manifestation of happiness, music and laughter. Our families joining as one laughing and talking with one another although meeting for the first time from across the country made it even that much more special.

Some of the things we included in our wedding was the ancestor table, giving thanks and acknowledgement for those within our family who have passed on. We also had a sand ceremony and Jinga block pieces as our family and friends were encouraged to give well wishes, advice and positive affirmations on those blocks.”

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Photography: True Love Photo
Venue: Vizcaya Sacramento
Event Coordinator:  Caitlin Frederici / Vizcaya Sacramento
Music: Quantum Music
Event Planner: Jason Shires / QME Planners
Cake and Desserts: Sugar Mama’s Bakery
Flowers: Party Petals Floral Design
Hair and Makeup: Cimberly D Artistry
Officiant: Tarah Shah / Life Church Monastery
Jewelry Designer and Goldsmith: Kaya Sattva Jewelry




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