Ceremonies & Traditions

Tying the Knot

As fun a fete as your planning after the “I dos” are said and rings exchanged, the ceremony is the important part of your wedding day, and should be given thorough attention. It’s the reason everyone is gathering on that day, to witness you and your beloved take the vows of matrimony.

Options abound for making the ceremony about you as a couple, your families, heritage, traditions and special interests. From readings and vows to ring warmings and glass breaking to personal touches, such as incorporating your children or remembering loved ones who’ve passed away, the opportunities are endless.

Begin your ceremony planning by deciding if it’s going to be a religious ceremony. Many ministers and rabbis will perform same-sex weddings, while others will not. There’s an officiant available for any type of wedding you want to have. Visit our Local Resources guide to find one in your area. Keep in mind that while your wedding may not be legally recognized in your state currently, it one day will, which is one reason why it’s a good idea to use only an ordained officiant to preside at your ceremony.

If you’re going to have a religious ceremony, there may be particular traditions you must incorporate, depending on the church or synagogue. Your officiant will be able to guide you on certain sacred material relevant to your religion, but many of the actions in your wedding ceremony are still your choice.

Remember to plan your ceremony as a reflection of you as a couple. Keep your heart in it, above all else.

For more inspiration on planning your ceremony, read our Creative Ceremonies feature.