If you’re like many LGBTQ+ people who are considering having a child, chances are you’ve entertained the idea of using a sperm bank. Whether the idea intrigued or terrified you (or maybe a mix of both!), there are a lot of misconceptions surrounding sperm banks, and subsequently a lot of potential mistakes you can make when selecting one.

We’re teaming up with industry-leading sperm bank, Xytex, to bring some much-needed clarity and transparency to the unknowns of sperm banking and keep you from making some common—and costly—mistakes on your path to parenthood.

Don't make these 5 mistakes when choosing a sperm bank. photo description: twins standing in front of a window in matching blue jumper suits with rainbows and clouds.
Be careful to not get sucked into the cute baby photos without considering all the other important factors when choosing a sperm donor.

Mistake 1: Assuming that the government regulates how many children can be conceived by each donor

Believe it or not, some countries, including the United States, have no set limits on children conceived by any given sperm donor. There are recommendations and guidelines, but no hard and fast laws. That’s why it is essential to choose a sperm bank that doesn’t just talk about imposing limits on how many families can conceive from a particular donor but can actually provide a guarantee that definitively caps the number of family units. Xytex is leading the way in the sperm banking industry by being the first to offer a guarantee on family units as part of their new Transparency+ commitment.

Mistake 2: Expecting all sperm banks to vet their donors equally

As long as you get your product from a licensed sperm bank and not an unverified online classified ad (which isn’t worth it no matter how much money you’ll supposedly save!), you can be assured that the donors have undergone some form of physical and genetic evaluation in order to be accepted into the program.

Xytex takes their vetting process a step beyond by including background and education verification and behavioral and personality assessments by a licensed clinical psychologist and licensed clinical social worker. Additionally, Xytex has highly trained genetic counselors to assist you with the best donor match for your family on a genetic level.

Mistake 3: Neglecting to consider your own genetics

While many people that pursue sperm donation are hesitant about the genetics of the donor involved, they often forget to consider their own genetic unknowns.

It is in your best interest to get tested before having a child to see which conditions, if any, you may carry. To add to your peace of mind, Xytex provides expanded carrier-testing on all donors and is now partnered with a leading genetics company, Sema4, to effectively check for over 280 conditions.

Mistake 4: Not thinking about what your future child might want

It might be tempting to choose the type of donor based on your preferences—and this makes sense when it comes to physical features. When considering either an anonymous donor or one whose identity will be disclosed when your child turns eighteen, thinking beyond your own feelings might make a difference in your decision. Since many offspring wish to connect with their donor in this way, Xytex exclusively accepts donors who disclose their identities.

Mistake 5: Getting drawn in by all the cute baby photos

We get it: All babies are adorable. But what do those babies look like as adults? Many sperm banks only provide photos of donors as babies or toddlers, not giving you the full picture of each donor. Xytex offers the most adult donor photos of any sperm bank to give you an accurate sense of appearance. While others may have face-matching services or lookalike programs, nothing beats having the actual photo of the donor for your future child.

By knowing how to address and avoid potential mistakes in selecting the right sperm bank, your path to parenthood just got a lot clearer.

To learn more about how Xytex is changing the industry with Transparency+, click here. If you’re interested in more in-depth information, you can sign up for a new account and receive 14-day free premium access at Xytex.com for a limited time using the code WED14.


This is a paid post in partnership with Xytex.