Whether you plan on swaying to a slow jam or showing off your swinging moves, the first dance as wife-and-wife or husband-and-husband is often a memorable moment for a couple. Be inspired by our Real Wedding alums and their first dance songs of choice:

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JAMIE AND CARRIE:Between the hors dโ€™oeuvres and cocktails, Jamie and Carrie shared their first dance as wife and wife to their song, I Wonโ€™t Dance, on the black-and-white checkered dance floor. โ€œA foxtrot โ€ฆ done poorly!โ€ laughs Jamie.

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ANNELIESE AND LAUREN: Because of Annelieseโ€™s South Asian American background, they enlisted in a Punjabi D.J. and swayed to Trainโ€™s Marry Me for their first dance. โ€œIt felt like she and I were floating across the dance floor,โ€ exclaims Anneliese.

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SHARDA AND ANNA: After week of dance lessons, Anna and Sharda expertly glided to You and Me by Dave Mathews Band for their first dance as wife-and-wife. โ€œI cannot dance even if my life depended on it so I insisted on lessons. I wasnโ€™t about to fall and look stupid during our first dance!โ€ laughs Sharda.

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KELSEY AND LEIGH: The couple choreographed their first dance as wife-and-wife to Jason Mrazโ€™s Lucky, played by Boston-based band Clockwork. โ€œWe heard about them from the lead female singer, Jamie Lynn Hart, who also sings at our church,โ€ says Kelsey.ย 

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KIM AND RANDIE: While vacationing in Israel, Sweet Lord by George Harrison played in their hotel elevator and they immediately knew it was the right choice for their first dance song. โ€œWe both shared a memory of singing the song to each other in bed,โ€ reminisces Kim. โ€œWe wondered if people would think we were crazy for picking a song that is about God, but to us it didnโ€™t matter. The song was about us and love and wanting to know and be close to and part of something bigger than you.โ€ย 

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COURTNEY AND KATIE: Their first dance began with the slow, romantic tunes of Sara Ramirezโ€™s The Story as the girls swayed on the dance floor, holding each other as wife-and-wife. Thirty seconds in, You Make My Dreams Come True blasted by Hall and Oates, and the girls surprised guests by falling into a fully choreographed swing dance routine. โ€œIt was awesome!โ€ laughs Courtney.ย 

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JAY AND PAUL: Their first dance as partners for life was to Wilcoโ€™s You and I, the song that Jay sang to Paul when he proposed.

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CYNTHIA AND DANA: In true traditional form, Cynthia and Dana took their fathers’ hands in a father-daughter dance to the iconic tune, What a Wonderful World, as guests looked on with tears of joy. They then moved into their first dance as wife and wife to Today by Joshua Radin.ย 

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