Reader Question: My fiancée and I are getting married in a month. Just like any other couple, we have been planning for a while. I went and bought my formal wedding dress and afterwards, my fiancee decided on wearing a dress, also. After the ceremony and the first dance she was going to change into a suit jacket and jeans that she purchased. Now we are getting closer to the wedding and she wants to change right out of the dress after the ceremony and initial pictures because it is not her and do the first dance in her suit jacket. She said she feels that what she wears should represent her. Which I feel the same way. Is it proper to do this? Also is it ok to not have anyone walk her down the aisle? Her father has passed and her brother is her best man. Our son and daughter are going to be walking down the aisle with me.
Editor Answer: It’s perfectly normal to change your mind as the wedding day swiftly approaches—you begin to realize what works for you, which should always take priority over any “traditional” planning. That being said, your fiancée should wear whatever she’s comfortable with, whether that be a dress during the ceremony and then changing into a suit at any point during the reception, or wearing a suit the entire time. Several brides have done both of these options.
When it comes to walking down the aisle, LGBT couples get to have a little more fun because new rules are being made! Do what fits you as a couple. Some brides walk out to the altar from the side, and wait for their bride to get escorted down the aisle. Others walk down the aisle by themselves, or are escorted by a loved one, before their soon-to-be wife, while some couples opt to walk together. I’ve seen equal numbers do each of these options.
Good luck and best wishes for your big day!
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