New Book Details the Fine Art of Gay and Lesbian Wedding Photography
Kirsten Ott Palladino, 10 years ago 4 min read
Marriage is steeped in tradition, but the institution is changing. Not just because gays and lesbians are being afforded the right to the legal benefits in an increasing amount of states, but because of the rise of feminists and the death of antiquated ideas such as when you get married, you are your husband’s property, and he can do whatever he wants with and to you. The promise to obey isn’t included in hardly anyone’s vows anymore. And so when we wed—gay or straight—it is as equals. More couples, especially gays and lesbians, are now choosing to both walk down the aisle, accompanied by a supportive family member or friend, but not being “given away.”
Yes, weddings are changing, and the professionals in the industry have long been in need of resource to help them sort out how to best help gays and lesbians marrying. Capturing Love: The Art of Gay and Lesbian Wedding Photography is a quintessential guide for wedding vendors, especially photographers, seeking to better understand the dynamics of same-sex relationships and how they translate to the wedding day. But perhaps just as crucial to point out is that it’s a visual celebration of love and commitment, and I think it’s a must-read for vendors, couples (gay and straight) planning their weddings and die-hard romantics.
It all came together when Thea Dodds, photographer and owner of Authentic Eye Photography, a boutique wedding and portrait studio based in New Hampshire, called Kathryn Hamm, president of GayWeddings.com, an online store and resource for gay and lesbian weddings, to see if she’d be interested in helping her create a how-to instructional on photographing gay and lesbian couples.
“As a professional photographer, I am constantly trying to improve my skill set. I attend seminars, workshops, expos, webinars, you name it,” says Dodds. “Despite the growing number of same-sex marriages I have not come across a single how-to resource for photographing same-sex couples. There is an enormous amount of instruction in how to pose and photograph a man and woman but nothing to my knowledge about how to pose and photograph two men or two women.”
Capturing Love features 38 photographers and 46 same-sex couples. Narrowing them down was tough. “In choosing these photographs, we sifted through thousands of engagement and wedding images before selecting those that illustrate key points about the art of photographing same-sex couples, while honestly representing an incredibly diverse community,” says Dodds. “The three critical questions we asked while making image selections were: Are these images authentic? Do these images reflect intimacy? Are these images believable? In the end, we chose photos that were powerful, clever and diverse.”
We’re fighting for the same rights as hetero couples, yet we need photographers to recognize that we aren’t the same as hetero couples. Why? This is the question I pose to Hamm, to get her take on the tricky double-edged sword we deal with in our industry. “I’ve pitched this book to several mainstream outlets and one of the reasons some folks have been skeptical about it is because of the mistaken belief that gay weddings are the same as straight weddings,” replies Hamm. “It’s well-intentioned, to be sure. And, I’m certainly glad that we are parsing words over an expectation of equality! But, while we want the recognition of our legal partnerships to be considered equal, and though we may pay the same amount to book a wedding venue on a Saturday night in June, there are some nuanced differences between straight and gay weddings. For example, to presume that a pose that works for a male-female couple (and all its implied messages about sexuality, gender and power) might work as a pose for a male-male couple or female-female couple can, at best, be awkward and, at worst, offensive. What Thea and I really want to do is to help photographers understand is that it’s essential that one meet a couple where they are—regardless of sexual orientation—and capture the authentic and intimate expressions of their relationship. And, in Capturing Love, we do our best to offer some simple but explicit suggestions for photographing same-sex couples that have not historically been included in photography education.”
Capturing Love: The Art of Lesbian & Gay Wedding Photography (Authentic Weddings, January 30, 2013, $32.95), is currently sold on Lulu.com. A Kindle version is expected to be available February 14, and an iBook and NOOK version are coming soon.
Kirsten Ott Palladino
Kirsten Ott Palladino is an award-winning editor, writer, speaker and educator, as well as the author of the first gender-neutral wedding planning book for LGBTQ+ couples, EQUALLY WED: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO PLANNING YOUR LGBTQ+ WEDDING (Seal Press). She’s the co-founder and editorial director of Equally Wed, the world’s leading digital LGBTQ+ wedding magazine, as well as Equally Wed Pro, the LGBTQ+ inclusive certification course and educational platform. Palladino has been profiled on CNN, NPR and Forbes and in The New York Times. Her work has appeared in Washington Post, Entrepreneur magazine, ARTNews magazine, Art & Antiques magazine, The Knot, Executive Traveler magazine, the Huffington Post, and more. She was recognized as one of Glamour magazine's Hometown Heroes for 2015.
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