Lucia and Bo’s DIY Utah wedding was filled with personal touches. One of their moms cooked all the food and the other baked the cakes. The attendants, whom they called “Handy Helpers,” wore anything they wanted, and a friend of theirs officiated.
The couple describes the celebration as low-key, but filled “with lots of colors and love” as well as “touches of vintage and punk feels.”
What advice would you give to engaged LGBTQ+ couples?
If your family is part of your wedding, don’t back down from what makes YOU feel good. Wear all the makeup you want to, wear a suit, put on those high heels, include that bop of a song that makes your family uncomfortable. It’s your day, and you don’t have to answer to anyone else.
What advice do you have for vendors and venues working with LGBTQ+ couples?
Always have more inclusive language. Websites where I see only “Bride & Groom” labeled on things makes me feel unseen.
What challenges did you face as an LGBTQ+ couple planning your wedding?
While planning our wedding, we were both cis/het passing. We often had to explain over and over again how we were both nonbinary and use they/them pronouns. People either seemed to think we weren’t queer enough or we were too queer for them to feel comfortable. It was important to us that people knew we were a queer couple.
Did you encounter any pleasant surprises as an LGBTQ+ couple planning your wedding?
Our friends were wildly supportive—and not just the ones we expected. Most of them, if not all, were amazing.
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