Planning a Wedding With Homophobia in the Family
Q My older brother and I have been at odds since my coming out. The rest of my family has been mostly supportive, especially my...
Should Both Brides Wear Their Rings Before the Wedding Day?
Q Should both brides get to wear their rings before the wedding day? A Are you referring to the engagement ring(s)? The answer is yes,...
Is a Drag Show at My Wedding Reception Appropriate?
Q My partner and I are in the process of planning our wedding, and we are thinking about having the most fabulous drag show ever...
Is Asking for Cash as a Wedding Gift OK?
Q What are your thoughts on registering for cash? My fiancé and I have found a few websites set up for this purpose. We’ve been...
Should I Invite Anti-Gay Relatives to my Wedding?
Q I have relatives who have made it clear they’re uncomfortable with me being gay. But I’m still unsure if I should invite them to...
Straight Allies Wish to Advocate for Gay Rights at Wedding
Q We are getting married next April in New Orleans, and though we are not a same-sex couple, we are strong advocates for LGBT rights....
We Disagree On Whether or Not to Spend the Night Before Our Wedding Together
Q My wedding’s coming up in a few months, and my partner and I have agreed on everything except how to spend the night before...
Inviting Other People’s Exes to the Wedding
Q My brother and his wife, Sally, were married for 12 years and have two gorgeous children together, ages 5 and 7. They divorced three...
Two Brides But Only One Can Have a Father/Daughter Dance — Selfish?
Q I’d love to have a father/daughter dance at my wedding, but my new stepmom has completely poisoned my dad’s view on gay marriage, as...
An Androgynous Maid of Honor Seeking Wedding Fashion Advice
Q My best friend of 13 years recently got engaged. Of course she wants me to be her maid of honor … the only problem is...
Do We Put the Wedding Website on the Invitation?
We have a wedding website. Can we get the word out by including it on our invitation? It’s not proper to include it...
Selecting Suits for Your Wedding Party
Q Do all of the broomsmen* need to wear the same suit?? Is it OK to tell them to just pick a black pants suit...
My Family Says I Should Call My Wedding A Commitment Ceremony
Q I live in Florida, where same-sex marriage is not yet legally recognized. But my girlfriend and I are planning a wedding here anyways. Our...
We Keep Getting Legally Hitched — Should We Keep Sending Announcements?
Q My partner and I were one of the 4,000 couples wed in San Francisco in February 2004. Then we were annulled by the Supreme...
A Butch Lesbian’s Family Wants Her To Dress Femme For Her Gay Wedding
Q I’m a butch lesbian marrying the most beautiful, feminine woman in the world, and I am so happy! My family loves her, but they’re...
Wedding Gifts for Your Spouse-to-Be
Q I want to give my fiancé a special gift for our wedding—beyond the tired watch or cuff links. He’s a modern guy, but...
